DEAR HUSBANDS, THIS IS HOW TO NURTURE YOUR WIFE AND BRING OUT THE BEST IN HER. THERE IS NO BETTER WOMAN OUT THERE!
HEARTCONFESSIONS 1:
“Accept your woman’s communication style and opinions. See them as different from yours, and not necessarily wrong.”
One of the ways to bring out the best in the woman in your life is to see that you are two different entities.
Even as Amos 3:3 says “two cannot walk together if they don’t agree,” on this side of the table you will not always agree on everything in marriage.
You need to see your wife’s opinion and position as one that is different from yours, not as an opposition.
This is the problem with us men, most times our ego gets alot in the way of our thinking process, every opposition from our wives comes off an attack to our stand, rather than an alternative to solving the same problem.
Sometime go with her way, to give her a sense of value and importance as your wife. You won’t die.
Try having this mentality, you will see your wife flourish effortlessly.
One thing it will do is give her the freedom of expression when she’s with you, or when she has something to say.
Most wives cannot talk when their husbands are talking, or even offer a different opinion to what he has decided.
This thing is called marriage, not slave trade.
HEARTCONFESSIONS 2:
Learn to say these three phrases:
“You were right,”
“I was wrong,”
and “I am sorry.”
Happy is the woman who is married to a man who knows how to use his magic words without feeling like he is loosing his respect in the home.
Most men know this are vital phrases that should never leave their lips, but they won’t say it to their wives because one culture says if they do their wife will look down on them and start controlling the house.
This is wrong sir.
Men really need to have special masterclasses to discuss this cultural and traditional values that are outdated and irrelevant in this generation.
For instance, there is nothing wrong in clearing your table after eating, there is nothing wrong in assisting your wife with common house chores around the house. Culture might make you the alpha and omega of your home, but God has made you the head. And Jesus says He who wants to be the Head must also learn how to serve.
Apologise when you are wrong.
Say “thank you” when you are being served. It’s not a right at all to be served, a kingdom man sees it as a privilege.
Admit it when your decision wasn’t the best.
Know your magic words sir, you are not excluded from them as the man of the house.
HEARTCONFESSIONS 3:
“Shes a woman, you are a man.”
She won’t be able to feel things like men do.
She won’t understand things like men do.
She won’t talk like men do.
She won’t reason the way men do.
She won’t communicate the way men do.
She doesn’t see romance the way men do.
Her definition of love is different from how men define love.
What you see as attention is different from how women see it.
Study that woman, study her well.
Know how she wants to be loved, and love her that way.
The temptation most times Is to love a woman the way you believe she should be loved, no sir, you may be doing your best, but women don’t process love the same way men do. Ask her how she wants to be loved and love her the way she understands love.
This way you may even be doing little on your path, but so much on hers.
HEARTCONFESSIONS 4:
Always Ask for her opinion.
Learn to carry your wife along, it will cost you nothing to ask for her opinion before your decisions are made.
It will cost you nothing to notify her of an already taken actions, before she hears it from outside.
Leave your family alone and confide in your wife.
Respect the relationship and bond you have with your siblings but confide in your wife.
She is the bone of your bone.
She deserves to know before anyone else.
HEARTCONFESSIONS 5:
Pay attention to your wife.
Most men can be in the same house with their wife and she will be going through a lot but he won’t.
He’s available but absent.
She can be ill and you won’t know.
She’s depressed and you have no idea.
She is troubled about many issues , you have no clue.
Her job is not going smooth, for months she’s been keeping up appearance but you have no idea.
Pay attention to your wife.
Ask her if she needs anything.
Ask her is she’s okay.
I know, your excuse is she should tell you of her issues instead of you having to read her mind right?
Left! It’s not mind reading, is called showing care and attention.
Certain things she will tell you, certain things you don’t need to be told before you figure it out, attention is a revealer.
Pay attention to your wife sir.
HEARTCONFESSIONS 6:
Be concerned about her family as you are concerned about yours.
We need to put men in a whatsapp group for this one. Most tend to care for their family, while ignoring the needs of your wife’s family too.
Balance it sir.
Do here and do there.
The proposition might not be the same, but do here and do there.
I know your excuse is she has siblings who can take care of their family, well, still not valid. When you married into the family you triggered the covenant of adoption, if two have become one it includes the families too.
Do the best you can.
Be interested.
When a woman knows you care about her family as yours it gives the best feeling, plus a sense of security. And it will also help her to open up to love your own family too without any bias.
These things need wisdom.
HEARTCONFESSIONS 7:
Defend her before anyone and everyone.
Family and friends inclusive.
Defend in public and scold in private.
Support in public and criticise in private.
No one is allowed to talk down or talk hashly to your wife anyhow, family inclusive, let everyone get the memo by the way you are protective of her.
Cover her up in her absence.
Make up excuses for her before others, so she doesn’t loose her respect.
To have peace and joy in marriage its the little things actually.
HEARTCONFESSIONS 8:
COVER YOUR WIFE IN PRAYERS!
COVER YOUR WIFE IN PRAYERS!
COVER YOUR WIFE IN PRAYERS!
COVER YOUR WIFE IN PRAYERS!
A man who can pray for his home is an asset to any woman.
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